When we talk

This is something I found from my old files – more than 10 years old! I don’t find a word to change… still convincing as it is!

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Often we talk nonsense. All those silly matters that we go on talking about could be resolved without uttering a word even. Better we get detached from our routine course of   actions and avoid talking unnecessarily.

Someone says, “True friendship comes when silence between two people is comfortable.”  Let us be at ease with each other with the silence pouring in.

And when we start talking we generally defend ourselves as if trying to convince others. We are so much afraid of differences that we always search for similarities and make groups of what we call as like-minded people. Let us not be afraid of differences. Someone puts it this way: “What matters today is not the difference between those who believe and those who do not believe, but the difference between those who care and those who don’t.”  Let the differences be highlighted, acknowledged and respected.

Listening to is an art. We seldom listen to anybody. What goes on is evaluation through comparison with our value system, ideology, concepts, and the worst of all our prejudice for the speaker. Let us listen to each other with no more presumptions.